This can breed suspicion and fear. This can cut us off from trusting women who are worthy of our trust and can help us reach our goals. This can prevent us from forming deeply important relationships with other women. This can prevent us from reaching our goals, (or even worse, discovering our goals!).
We are highly emotional creatures and are socialized to express these emotions. This should be seen as a positive attribute but it is more often seen as a histrionic judgment … mostly self-inflicted.
Men are more equipped to work together without emotions mucking up their progress. Yes, this is a generalization, but it’s true.
How many times have you met another couple, the two men like each other and the two women like each other … But somehow the women end up suspicious of one another and sabotage what could have (and should have) been a great foursome? (Not in THAT way – unless all four are into it and then go for it!)
How many times are the two men left dumbfounded due to the misunderstanding between the two women? How many times do we sabotage our bond based on erroneous assumptions and suspicion? How many times do we allow our conditioning to complete with one another get in the way of our initial instincts to love one another?
STOP IT. THERE IS MORE THAN ENOUGH TO GO AROUND. YOUR MAN JUST WANTS YOU TO BE HAPPY AND EMOTIONALLY BALANCED. STOP ASSUMING THE WORST OF OTHER WOMEN.
Women can learn a lot from a man with regard to competition. Men compete and let it go. They play a game, beat the crap out out of each other and then go have a beer together. Women compete and hold on to emotional bullshit.
Let it go and move on. If you find yourself suspicious of another woman and making false accusations, talking shit about her to your man or your mutual friends … STOP IT.
Either we work together, or we implode. It is your choice. It really is.