Most people follow the course of their parents and their culture, without really making a decision for themselves.
Most people go from being a son or daughter to being a husband or wife to being a father or mother – without really making a conscious choice. They just do what is culturally expected of them.
This is one of the reasons same sex couples make superior parents. They have to really make the choice, and find a surrogate, or a donor, and go through a long, emotional process to have the baby, the child, the right to raise a child under a roof where that child has been fought for – before he/she has even been conceived. Talk to any child raised by a same-sex couple and you are likely to be speaking with a person of superior intellect and enhanced capacity to love. If you have a problem with a same-sex couple raising a child, you are an idiot.
On the contrary, those who are heterosexual and have chosen to remain child free receive much the same idiotic judgment when it comes to their decision. Those of us who have made this choice have done so because it is our right to choose a path other than the norm. Not everyone wants the responsibility or the heartache of raising another person. This is just as viable a choice as those who just go along with expectations. In fact, those who have chosen to remain child free have made a choice that is best for them – they should be admired for knowing what they wanted before making a lifelong commitment to follow the norm.
Just because you have made one choice, or mindlessly became a parent, that is your problem and your responsibility and your choice.
It is not your right to then pass judgment on those who have made a choice unlike yours.
Remaining child free is the best decision for many, and those many should be respected for knowing who they are and what they want in life. No one – and I mean no one – who has or has had a teenager disagrees with this.
At 12 years old, I announced to my family that I would never have a child. My step-monster said, “oh Laura … at some point, you will have a biological need to want to have a child, and you will meet a man with whom you will want to share a family … you’ll change your mind about this.” I said, as I stuck out my hand, “‘l’ll bet you a grand that I will not change my mind and will never want a child.” She laughed and shook my hand.
That bitch owes me a grand … plus interest AND DAMAGES. ; )