The Small Book — by Jack Trimpey.
Are you convinced that you have a drinking problem and need to abstain from alcohol but are finding it difficult? Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? How many times are you going to make the promise of change to yourself only to break that promise? Have you had enough? Is this AA cult religion ‘program’ doing you more harm than good? Yes?
That is because AA is designed to keep you dependent on IT, rather than on YOU.
Not everyone needs to abstain from alcohol forever. You know if you are best in abstinence or moderation. Sometimes, the choice changes from one to the other over time. For either choice, The Small Book by Jack Trimpey will give you insight into how your inner voice can and does sabotage your efforts … and how to change that by using it.
You CAN trust your own thinking. You are NOT alone. You do NOT need to attend dis-empowering, mind-fuck, thought-stopping religious meetings for the rest of your life. You have all the power to keep your promises to yourself and to those you love. Start here.
The following is an example from a man who used The Small Book to help him finally find his freedom. With permission, I share it with you. Enjoy! (And please, if you appreciate this, share it on facebook and wherever you share on social media. I have had a hacking abuse situation and am no longer a member of facebook. Thank you!)
“I found my way to a dead chat-room with a single person in it… “Sunflowerx41” I think it was…
Gunthar2000: Are you in recovery?
Sunflowerx41: 10 years.
Gunthar2000: I can’t seem to get it right.
Sunflowerx41: Get what right?
Gunthar2000: The program.
Sunflowerx41: Ahhh… The program… Have you tried anything else?
Gunthar2000: I tried quitting on my own, but it never works. My whole life is a mess.
Sunflowerx41: Do you read books?
Gunthar2000: Yes I do. My favorite book is The Grapes of Wrath. I like to read stuff from that period. Steinbeck is a genius! Have you read it?
Sunflowerx41: Read The Small Book by Jack Trimpey.
Gunthar2000: What’s it about? Someone online suggested that I should read The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino. I read it, but it was too mooshy-gooshy for me. Have you read it?
Sunflowerx41: Are you drinking right now?
Gunthar2000: I’m at the library… I’m drunk, if that’s what you’re asking.
Sunflowerx41: Do you have a piece of paper?
Gunthar2000: Hold on a sec.
Gunthar2000: Got it.
Sunflowerx41: Write this down.
Sunflowerx41: The Small Book by Jack Trimpey.
Gunthar2000: Okay… What’s it like?
Sunflowerx41: It’s about quitting drinking… Have you had enough?
Gunthar2000: Yup… My life is all fucked up.
Sunflowerx41: Then read the book. It changed my life. I’ve been sober for 10 years in May. Hey listen… I have to go. The brood is acting up. I was just like you. You can quit drinking if you want to… just get that book and read it. Write it down and put it in your pocket in case you forget. I have to go. Good luck.
Gunthar2000: Thanks. What’s it about?
Sunflowerx41: I have to go.
It would be another three or four years before I’d finally put the bottle down, but that day… that encounter in a chat-room… and that book have changed my life for the better.
A Vision for Me
I’m not gonna get into the specifics about how I quit drinking, because frankly, I don’t think you should give a shit. I can sum it up in two words… “Individualized Recovery.” That means my recovery is based on my needs, and nobody else’s. What I did to stop drinking is as likely to help you stop drinking as it is likely my shoes will fit comfortably on your feet… and the same goes for AA’s 12 steps.
I don’t know about you, but in my case, Bill Wilson’s shoes hurt the hell out of my feet and gave me blisters. It was like trying to walk with bear-traps on my ankles.
My point here is that there is no single method that works for everyone. We are all unique people, with unique challenges, and unique needs. Recovery depends on your ability to identify your own issues and solve your own problems. I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t use every available resource to help you identify your problems and recover from alcoholism. I’m saying that when AA hands you a plate full of shit and tells you that you have to eat it if you want to recover, it’s okay to say, “That ain’t my plate full of shit, and those ain’t my problems.”
If there were any steps involved at all in my recovery, leaving AA was the first. And so, I left AA and I recovered from my battle with booze. I was able to do this, in large part, due to that chance encounter, in that empty chat-room long ago.
Leaving AA was not easy for me. I’d spent the better part of 16 years or so bouncing in and out of dirty church basements looking for an answer. Although I couldn’t call anyone at AA a close friend, besides my family and a fleeting romance here and there, AA members were the only acquaintances that I had. When I told my AA friends that I was thinking about seeking outside help they quickly assured me that I would drink again. And so, I tossed around in the surf. Alcoholics Anonymous had become a mind fuck that ebbed and broke like crescent waves through my entire existence. Without those people, I couldn’t even figure out who the fuck I was. They had defined me, and I had depended on their approval in order to justify myself. The only way to be accepted was to subscribe to the doctrine. They had prescribed a one size fit’s all personality profile and told me that if I didn’t find a way to fit it I would die.
And here was this book… this little rant that introduced me to the idea that it was okay to think for myself again. I devoured that book like God eats lobster, and when I was finished, I knew that something big had happened. It felt like stepping back into my-self. Somewhere along the line I had renounced myself. I had taken up Bill Wilson’s cross and followed Alcoholics Anonymous out into the wilderness and there I found no manna to sustain. And so I left the tribe and there along my path stood a sign that read, “This Way to You.”
If I hadn’t found the answer to my drinking problem, I was sure of one thing. Alcoholics Anonymous was not helping me… it was hurting me.
“But what about those nice people… the ones who’ve devoted so much time to trying to help you?”… I asked myself.
“Surely Jack and Mary, Dave and Roy meant you no harm.”
“You were the one who failed, not them.”
And I went back, and I went back again seeking their approval… trying my best to “take what I needed and leave the rest.”
It took a while, but the truth did finally sink in… There is no “take what you need and leave the rest.” AA is all or nothing. You are either in AA, or you are out of AA… There is no in between. There is no splicing the doctrine. There is no yourself.
I left AA in early September of 2006.
September 22nd, I put the bottle down.
I haven’t had a drop since.”
Thank you again to Donald for permission to share this. “I devoured that book like God eats lobster.” My favorite line. Genius!
— Laura Tompkins